In child custody disputes, it is not uncommon for parents to end up in conflict over issues such as custody, residence, and contact. In some cases, what is often referred to as controlling behavior, or coercive control, may arise. This involves one parent trying to exert power and control over the other, sometimes using the child as a tool in the conflict.
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What Is Controlling Behavior?
Controlling behavior refers to a pattern where one person attempts to limit or control another person’s actions or decisions. In the context of a Swedish custody dispute, this can include:
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Threatening to ”take” the child away from the other parent.
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Refusing to cooperate on everyday matters concerning the child, such as school, healthcare, or activities.
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Influencing the child to reject or distance themselves from the other parent.
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Deliberately making contact between the child and the other parent more difficult.
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Using legal processes to increase pressure, for example by prolonging the case.
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How Can This Affect the Child?
Children can be negatively affected by ongoing conflicts where one parent uses controlling behavior. Possible consequences include:
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Feelings of insecurity or stress.
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Guilt or loyalty conflicts.
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Reduced contact with one parent.
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Impact on the child’s relationships and emotional well-being.
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How Is Controlling Behavior Viewed Under Swedish Law?
Swedish law is based on the principle of the best interests of the child. The court must consider the child’s well-being and how the parents cooperate. A clear pattern of controlling behavior can be seen as a lack of ability to prioritize the child’s needs, which may influence the court’s decision on custody, residence, and contact.
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However, there is no specific legal provision in Sweden that defines or prohibits ”controlling behavior” as such. Still, it may be considered as part of the court’s overall assessment.
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What Can a Parent Do?
Some steps that may be helpful include:
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Documenting the behavior, such as saving communication that shows controlling actions or threats.
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Seeking advice or support to handle the situation in a way that keeps the focus on the child’s needs.
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Avoiding similar behavior oneself, to not escalate the conflict further.
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The court will consider how both parents communicate and cooperate. Showing a willingness to find workable solutions for the child can be an important factor in the court’s assessment.
